We’ve been intimate 4 times now (penetration happened only on the 3rd time because of this erection issue).
1st TIME, SECOND DATE: he was hard the whole date when we were at a bar. We got over to his place, he was hard too. We did some foreplay, hard - but I was only comfortable with giving him a handjob, he just fingered me. We didn’t do it long enough to cross the finish line though.
2nd TIME: again - hung out at a bar, he was aroused, got over to his place. We had some foreplay (dry humping, making out, hands stuff, him sucking my tits) but then he immediately grabbed the condom which surprised me.
I’m used to guys always wanting to eat me out at first or *at least**** ***ask for a BJ. I thought maybe he’s just horny. Condom was put on, and but as we were trying to put him inside me, he started going soft. I tried to relax him by kissing him everywhere, jerking him off, but he never got hard. I assured it’s fine and we cuddled. He said it was work conference stress that’s next week, after that he said he’ll be fine.
At this stage, he was blaming the fact that he was hard for an hour on the date prior to us coming over to his place.
3rd TIME: Went out for drinks, got back to his place, and we actually managed to have sex. It was some foreplay, (again no oral or anything, just straight into PIV), condom on and he rammed into me pretty quickly with force but yes he was hard. The sex was good, but he lasted quite long and eventually he couldn’t even cum. It was fine though and I definitely received very excited messages from him thanking for the night and saying he enjoyed it greatly.
He blamed the alcohol this time (which is kinda weird, because earlier he was bragging that his parents have a winery and he’s said that due to growing up in that environment and drinking from a young age, even 2 glasses of wine doesn’t really affect him).
4th TIME: I was actually waiting for this so bad, because, like I said, last time was extremely hot and our chemistry was crazy. We went out, had drinks, back to his place, foreplay as usual, he was hard as rock. Placed the condom on, started putting it in (me on top), he started going soft again.
I said it’s okay, jerked him off for a while and made out, he got hard again. So far we had been using the condoms he bought, but I had a bit bigger ones, so I thought let’s try those. So we put a new, bigger condom on. This time he started going soft before the condom was even rolled completely down. We did this maybe 4 times and used 4 condoms for nothing.
He said again, that the issue was him being aroused for too long when we were out. This dude gets hard from me just touching his bicep and sitting close to him, but when it’s time to actually do something, kitty in front of him trying to put it in, he goes soft…
We cuddled and talked, I asked him is it maybe performance anxiety, he denied it but started talking about how men get adrenaline sometimes during arousal and that can cause it. Then he also mentioned that it’s stress, which was weird because his work stuff was over. During our pillow talk, he revealed that “men jerk off very roughly” so I started thinking maybe he had death grip syndrome.
I’m not sure what to think anymore. It’s also affecting my self-confidence, although he says I’m gorgeous, he loves my figure and can’t stop looking at me. How can you not stay hard when I’m trying to put you inside me?
